Just a normal Sunday.
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Just a normal Sunday.
As Qwear has grown from just me to a full team of quexperts (still working on that one) and with questions and submissions coming in daily from all around the world, I haven’t stopped looking for gaps in our content.
Where all the femmes at, yo??
I know femmes read Qwear — who wouldn’t want to browse daily eye candy and get inspiration for dressing your boo — but they haven’t necessarily seen it as a space for them. I want to change that.
I mean, I’m no femme (whhhhhatttt?), but I never intended for Qwear to be an exclusively masculine/ androgynous blog. Femme inclusivity in queer spaces is something I don’t take lightly! I recognize that femmes need a queer fashion space too, and that they have their own identities and sub-identities that interact with fashion in unique ways. (Yes, femmes can be genderqueer!) Not to mention how many people out there are gender fluid and wear dresses and bow ties interchangeably. Now, just a note, that I totally love, respect, and read blogs that focus on queers in menswear. But from the very beginning, I intended for Qwear to include more gender presentations, and I still care about that.
So to kickoff the start of an even more amazing community and get more of our beloved femmes onto the screen, I’ve invited a VERY SPECIAL FEMME (VSF) to join our team. Please give a warm welcome to my fashion hero, my good friend; she’s an incredible writer, stylist, an all around good human, Fit For a Femme. I’m gushing, but who wouldn’t…
FFAF will be answering your femmewear related qwearies (as well as others too, she’s a Jill of All Trades) and blogging from time to time on interests of her own. If you have any special requests for her, send it our way.
FFAF and I have already done a ton of projects together, including
So submit your questions, submit your photos, submit your guest articles, because femmes are here to stay! Oh, and if you aren’t already, make sure to follow FFAF to see more tips and outfits at fitforafemme.com, and on Facebook and Tumblr. Looking forward to hearing more from all of you soon.
Anonymous asked: I’m hoping you can help me with a hair question. I used to have short funky hair. It was one of those ‘hello-I’m-a-lesbian’ haircuts. I absolutely loved it as it was androgynous enough that I felt it truly reflected who I was. However, now that I’ve entered the workplace (I’m a teacher) I’ve had to rethink my ‘do. I’ve grown my hair out to a boring shoulder-length with highlights but I really don’t feel myself. Can you suggest a short cut that can be worn two ways (formal & funky)
Raimi & Lee say: Undercuts!!
It’s all the buzz (sorry, we had to). For folks with longer hair, having a patch of shaved or shorter hair on the side of your head or the back near your neck can be like having a fabulous secret. For work, just wear your long hair in a way that covers the short bit (down, or in a low ponytail), and then just reveal the short hair for party time! Pull it into a high ponytail or bun, pin it out of the way, style it into a pomp, or just sweep it out of the way.
(Believe it or not.. Shawdeen has a rad undercut!)
(It’s Aimmeeee! - Sonny added this picture)
Casey Legler, everyone’s favorite male model, has an excellent example of a versatile ‘do: buzzed to a fade on the sides & long on the top that can be combed over to the side, pomped, or spiked!
Product, product, product:
If you’re a ‘mo like Lee, you probably carry a few different hair products with you! Lee carries at least 3 on any given day (in repurposed lil jam jars) & a comb so they can both resuscitate their current ‘do or change it at a whim for the next event.
Product is what can take Pink’s hair from glam and slicked back to wild and ready to party.
Every queer’s favorite word! Many folk go from day to evening/ feminine to masculine with earrings, hats, headbands, glitter (my all-time fave), & makeup
Werk what you have
Doesn’t Alyx just scream “queer professional” to you?
Just because you have a “hello I am a lesbian” haircut does not mean you can’t look profesh! Some jobs may have dress codes which don’t allow shaved heads or other (awesome) cuts, but generally speaking, if the rest of your look is professional, there’s no reason you can’t have a rad, queer haircut. If you’re reading this blog, you’ve probably already got a good headstart on the dapper look.
Anonymous asked: I’m very picky BUT stupid when it comes to shoes. I usually dress boyishly, but sometimes I feel like wearing some cute but not feminine dresses or skirts. And I don’t like sandals and high-heels. Do you have some other nice recommendation? I guess I’m trying to look not too feminine even when I’m in dresses or skirts. Great thanks.
I’m blowin up with ideas for ya. What about Oxfords, Loafers, Toms, Converse, Boots (Docs are a popular choice, but combat boots would look so rad), or flats without super feminine details? Any of the styles at Wildfang should do the trick!
Have fun! - Sonny
By Guest Blogger, Anita Dolce Vita
It’s getting warmer in NYC, and like every other Manhattan homo, I am dreaming of Fire Island, a 31 mile long island that is just 1.5 hours from the city and in some places only accessible by boat or seaplane (motor-vehicles are prohibited). Two of the hamlets on the Island, the Pines and Cherry Grove, are gay summer resorts. People sunbathe on the beach all day and party all night. It’s the ultimate gay paradise, but you best bring your swag; it can be a catwalk.
While I love the beach, the beach is not kind to my Afro-textured hair! If your fabulous curly styling from Raimi and Lee are going to help, you’ll have to protect your tresses. So, this year when I head to my fashion-forward seaside adventures, I’m going to add head-wraps to my resort wear accessories.
Before we get down to business, I will preface my recommendations by saying that, as a half African-American, half Italian-American woman, I know all about and have experienced the politics of hair. But, whether I wear my hair natural, in braids with extensions, or relaxed, my Afro-textured hair requires a different level of care, especially when exposed to sun and salt.
Me with natural hair
Me with relaxed hair
Head-wraps are a stylish way of protecting my hair from the elements, and a quick-fix when I’m on vacation and don’t have time to primp between the beach, dinner, and dancing but still want to look chic. I found these great head-wrap inspiration photos on Pinterest. (If you’re not sure HOW to wrap your hair, see this 7 minute video tutorial featuring 12 different head-wrap styles.)
Anita Dolce Vita is the Managing Editor at dapperQ
By Guest Blogger, Anita Dolce Vita
In my home town of Albuquerque, NM, people don’t think twice about throwing on a pair of sweatpants and an old T-shirt for brunch. When I moved to Manhattan, my New York City friends were mortified when I tried to pull off sweatpants in a restaurant. Moving to a fashion forward city quickly revealed a huge weakness in my queer femme style: I have no functional, casual, cool outfits.
I mean, I have formal covered. My closet is filled with a ton of glittery shoes and bejeweled cocktail dresses that are appropriate for a variety of special events.
I also have that undergraduate-just-rolled-out-of-bed look perfected. But, I have nothing “in between.”
And, why would I? In Albuquerque — at least when I lived there in the 90s — you either dressed up for formals or threw on a beat up pair of jeans to hang out at Applebee’s. (I certainly wouldn’t wear the above pictured shoes to an Applebee’s!) There weren’t a whole lotta other activities that called for casual chic attire. In fact, the last time I visited home, I was the most dressed-up person at our only gay bar and all I wanted to do was change into a fleece pullover so I could stop listening to my friends call me “bougie.” But, especially during the years when I was in college, wearing an outfit like this to the lesbian coffee shop or Coronado mall food court would have only invited awkward stares and judgment (even if it was self-judgment for feeling out of place):
But, now I live in NYC, where there are a ton of activities (lounges, rooftop parties, gallery hopping, brunches, queer events, etc.) that call for this “in between” look that I just can’t seem to achieve. This is the closest I’ve gotten:
While the outfit works for gallery openings and people watching at lounges, the boots do not lend well to walking more than 15 or so blocks in the city. Urbanites know the importance of a good walking shoe. So, I have some work to do in the fashionable-but-functional shoe department and I most definitely need more than one casual chic outfit.
I’ve found a few outfits on Pinterest that I might be able to pull off. I’m going to take these images shopping with me and use them as inspiration. My goal will be to stay focused on the mission of getting those “in between” ensembles and staying away from disco dresses and metallic stilettos. I’ll keep you posted about the results. Until then…
Anita Dolce Vita is the Managing Editor at dapperQ
UPDATE Feb 9: I know this is probably obvious to all of my followers, but sadly not to the rest of the world. Hoping it will reach some other people as well!
While scoping out wedding pics for my Pinterest board, I was reminded of how many couples still put their bridal party in the same dress. So woooahhh let’s cut that out, kay? Seriously, knock it off. Your friends will thank you for it.
But having all my bridesmaids in the same dress looks supes cute, right??
Okay, maybe if they are actually clones. Otherwise, the practice is exclusionary of any gender identity that lies outside the male/female binary. Even if none of the people in your party are gender non-conforming, it sends a message that your other gender nonconforming friends wouldn’t be welcome in your wedding party. The practice is very alienating to the queer community. Even if NO ONE at your wedding is queer (which, I doubt) it’s still encouraging the idea that gender is only male/female.
Having people wear different outfits isn’t just beneficial to those who are gender nonconforming. It helps people of different body types, taste, budgets, and preferences for their attire. It’s allowing your friends and family to rejoice with you in the way they feel most comfortable. It’s celebrating the beautiful differences among us, rather than trying to force people into boxes to fit your idea of the “perfect” wedding.
You love your friends because they are all beautifully unique, not because they can all fit into the same dress!
But this is my day! Can’t my friends be uncomfortable for one day to make me happy?
Not really. Asking your best friend to make a toast even though he’s nervous about public speaking, or your busy sister to help with the flower arrangements is one thing. Asking them to wear an outfit that goes against their core sense of self or makes them extremely uncomfortable is another.
But if they’re not wearing the same outfit, how are they going to match?
OMGGGG you’re so right!! The whole thing is going to be a mess. But wait! There are other ways to make a bunch of outfits look good together. If One Direction can do it, so can you. Choose a color scheme and/or style, and have people dress accordingly. Here is a great article about Mismatched Bridesmaids.
Okay, but what will my grandmother say?
It can be hard to go to a wedding that’s different from the one you’d been dreaming of for 80 years (or at least, I would imagine so.) Just sit Grandma down, and tell her that you love all your friends, and want to celebrate their differences rather than force them into a potentially uncomfortable situation. If she’s still upset, tell her that it will make you and your boo the most happy. And she’ll probably want that for you.
Plus, mismatched wedding parties are so in, right now! It’s like, THE NEWEST TREND to be respectful of your friends’ individuality and identities. Isn’t that awesome??
Anonymous asked: Any tips for matching coloured shoes with outfits? I have a pair of blue heels that I love but rarely wear because I don’t know how to match them with my outfit unless my shirt/pants are blue. And now I’m eyeing a pair of blue brogues but hesitate to buy them for the same reason. Also, inspired by your website I bought a pair of red pants and a similar bluish-green pair, and I love them! But I don’t know what tops to wear them with apart from black T-shirts
I’ve been super into unlikely color combinations, myself. Color is strange. Like all shades of blues look good together. Hell, blue goes with everything. But mix two oranges and it can look horrible. Sometimes you just have to hold things up against each other and see if it looks good.
Texture is really important to keep in mind. The texture of blue jeans go with EVERYTHING, whereas blue chinos of the exact same color doesn’t. Crazy, huh? And like, brown pants with a black shirt in the same material is a horrendous combination, whereas brown boots and black leggings looks totally baller. Another example: you can die your hair red and wear an orange dress, but put that same red on a sweater with the same dress and people will cry.
Here are some words that might be helpful when starting to think about color:
Neutrals: Color that does not attract attention, like beige, ivory, taupe, black, gray, and white. However, almost all neutrals have an undertone of other colors. Unless they are completely gray with nothing else mixed in. Here are some dark neutrals:
You can see how some are greenish, others purplish.
The easiest way to avoid clashing, is, like you said, to repeat one bright color against an otherwise neutral outfit:
You can also use neutrals to offset several bright colors. This preppilicious ensemble combines bright green, blue, and red:
This is genius: the blazer and tie are neutrals with the sweater’s maroon mixed in. Perfect example of how you can use the undertones in your neutrals to compliment the bright(er) colors.
Complimentary colors: Hues that are opposite from eachother on the color wheel. Purple and yellow can be pretty fun:
Blue and orange are an excellent choice:
Red and green, however, can be tricky. Because, Christmas. And, just ew. But if it’s an olive green like this that doesn’t scream Christmas, it can look fantastic:
But then, olive/army green is close to being a neutral. That coat would go with anything.
Shades: The same color, just darker or lighter. Check out this genius ensemble. Three different shades of teal. Who would have expected that??
Pastels: Pale and delicate. Most commonly worn in spring. Just think Easter.
Jewel Tones: Highly staturated, rich colors, that resemble well-known gemstones. AKA emeralds, amethysts, rubies, topaz and sapphires
YUMMMM (from: aopevents.wordpress.com)
Jewel tones are notoriuos for looking amazing with brown. Which is why Missy wound up with an entire teal wardrobe (be careful.)
Primaries: Red, Yellow, Blue. The colors with which every other color is made. Think legos, Ashley Yielding.
Analogous colors: Colors close together on the color wheel that share similar hue and saturation. When placed together, they look very harmonious. No one does it better than Dustin in his oceanic blue and green combo:
Monocromatic: Colors that are the same thoughout. According to Macy’s, it’s in this season. But be careful of overmatching. Sometimes matching too much can look calculated. Unless you’re this dude:
People might try to impose rules on you, but in the end you have to just use your eyes and intuition. The more you think and observe color in the world around you, the better your eyes will become at figuring out what looks good together. Have fun!!
A Bicycle Built For Two is one of my new of my new favorite sources for queer formal wear inspiration! A beautiful display of carefully picked lesbian and queer wedding photos. I was scrolling the other day and found this dashing couple, AnnMarie & Anne:
Obvi I had to get in touch with them and ask them about their outfits.
AnnMarie (suit, bow tie) told me, “I knew what I wanted to look like on my wedding day from the time I was little. I am obsessed with English styled suiting from the mid century. I am also equally obsessed with classic menswear. I wanted my look to be dapper and polished and really show my personality. I was born a 67 year old man and I really wanted that to show through.” She wound up with this amazing vintage, bespoke suit made in 1967, from the Etsy shop, Brightwall, and then she got it tailored.
Anne told me that she prefers simple dresses, and had surprising luck at David’s Bridal! ”I wanted a dress, but I hate shiny fabric, beads, sparkles… Basically most wedding gowns. They just aren’t me. I wanted simple and clean. I found a lot of beautiful vintage dresses that were all too teeny tiny, so against my instincts, we checked out David’s Bridal. And we found the dress! It’s shantung, which is more matte, and structured (learn something new every day). And it has pockets!! Overall I wanted to feel like myself, and for me that means simple and classic, but with fun details.”
Suit: Etsy shop, Brightwall + tailoring
Tie and Pocket Square: Custom made through Etsy shop Divinedomestication.
Vest, Suspenders and Socks: Men’s Wearhouse + tailoring
Shirt: Blank Label
Shoes: Calvin Klein Men’s Felix Oxford, bought on Amazon.
Hat: Sugarcube in Philly